How did a home which emerged of a honeymoon transformed so negatively and, sometimes, seeming irredeemably, to a battlefield? We (my wife an I) often ask in silent nodes to one another,
Some of the questions on my mind during our marriage conflict resolution sessions is what often make the once upon a time Romeo and Juliet kind of couple suddenly become sworn enemies? .how is it that couples in crisis can’t, for the sake of the good memories, back down and sheath their swords without asking the courts for dissolution? In short, should couples, who once enjoyed the warm embrace of each other, tasting the succulence of loving and soothing entangles, not able to reconcile any difference? Why do ‘love’ go sour?
Many, during these sessions, are quick to blame the Devil. Oh yeah, the Devil has ridiculously emptied self of any tendency for good and is culpable at forming crisis in homes. After all, the Devil was there at Eden to distort the transparency, innocence and mutual vulnerability enjoyed by Adam and Eve. He has repeated this version of perversions of truths and orderliness between couples in countless marriages. Yes, the Devil is culpable…but, we have discovered, the Devil cannot hack into any marriage without the consents of the parties in marriage.
If love and romance in your marriage is turning sour, parties should both accept responsibility for it and stop blaming the Devil or his possessed messenger. When, as a party, you are able to keep your heart and your own environment spiritually fumigated against Satan’s onslaught, half the battle in your home is won.
In most of the marital disputes, the battlefield is fuelled by bulk passing and shifting blame on the other party. Once, at least, a party takes the responsibility to ensure peace reigns, indeed, peace is halfway endorsed and the Devil gets jittery.
So why do love go sour?
-Carelessness (of at least one) of the parties
-Unrealistic expectations of the Couples
-Third Party Voices
-Selfishness
The acronym CUTS is symbolic of 4-Ways the Devil cuts peace and romance out of most marriages and it takes just the permission of one of the parties for the bonfire to be sparked.
Our recommendation to parties is simple; Take Heed unto Thyself. In order words, pay attention to yourself so as not become Satan’s Accessory of Destruction (SAD). Most sadness in marriage are self-approved because of not paying attention.
With this understanding and your openness to counsel, we are assured that;
Your home is raised from the ruins.
Your home is secure from stale wine.
Life is bursting forth and back in your home.
We wait for your testimony.